Coronavirus: How Adults Can Help Children Navigate Anxiety
Children of all ages are experiencing stress through this crisis. Here's how to help.
As Americans adapt almost minute-by-minute to keep up with evolving information regarding the COVID-19 outbreak, we must pay careful attention to our families. It is incumbent on adults to react appropriately to reduce children’s anxiety over the uncertainty, because children are always watching and they take cues from our behavior, whether spoken or signaled by our actions.
To keep children as anxiety-free as possible, adults must practice and demonstrate self-management and awareness of their own anxiousness – and be conscious of how this might be unintentionally transferred to children. Daily self-reflection is necessary. Adults are equipped with a mindset and skill set to positively interact with children of all ages. It is critical for adults to regulate their behavior, not only for their own emotional and physical health, but for that of their children. (This is known as consistent self-regulation.)
First, adults should acknowledge their own worry and anxiety.
They should then obtain the real facts concerning the situation, discuss these with other adults, and consciously plan for how to contain this anxiety, especially when in the presence of kids.
As we acknowledge anxiety, we can also think about how maintaining a calm demeanor will assist children. We should consider that our discussions with children about COVID-19 will vary depending on the developmental level of each child.
Adults should behave as normally as possible, remain calm, be creative about the new reality, and communicate as clearly as they can with children on a regular basis.
It is important to design a daily routine for children similar to what they are used to, and to stick with it, so children’s anxiety does not escalate.
When children hear news or conversation about this “new” reality, adults must consider the cognitive developmental level of children and always have discussions honestly. For example, when young children ask if he/she or you are going to die from what is going on, the response should be as simple as possible. Concentrate on the positive. “We are staying home as a precaution. We are washing hands more often to continue to be safe.”
Emphasize that everything we are doing will help everyone stay “safe.”
Adults interacting with children at very young ages should be highly aware of triggers for children, such as acting out in ways that are unusual, over-emphasis on the actual crisis (such as asking too many questions, dwelling on all the negative that is being given in the media), rather than staying with the established daily routines.
These triggers might move them into negative space, negative thoughts, and might emotionally affect them in even more permanent ways. It is the adults’ responsibility to discuss, but to keep children in as normal a setting as possible.
With older children, such as high school students, more specifics can be shared. However, it is still important to establish boundaries and routines for these children. Even though more specific discussions can be had, these children might experience anxiety and nervousness that could manifest for a lengthy period. Routines are just as important for older kids.
The takeaways for adults interacting with children during this uncertain time include the importance of all adults being mindful of their own anxiety and anxiousness regarding the current situation. It also includes being conscious of behaviors that might be interpreted by children as negative when they are not necessarily intended as such and practicing self-regulation with these behaviors.
Finally, it is critical for adults to meet all children at their own cognitive level with honesty and clear and consistent communication.
Adults must be mindful about the amount of information children are able to comprehend, so they should not offer anything that might make children more anxious. We should consistently convey the message, in our conversations and in our actions, that everything being done is meant to help everyone remain safe.
Keep a routine.
Emphasizing routines will help all of us. It will reduce anxiety levels and imbue trust. Routines offer children established healthy habits, help create a calmer environment, and give kids independence in a time when they may really need it. Establishing routines is a known stress reducer for you and your children.
Healthy and safe routines should include thoroughly washing your hands, regularly. Wearing masks when necessary, and social distancing all the time. We've seen wearing masks can irritate children's delicate skin and lips. It's important to use a safe, allergen-free, and toxin-free cleanser for their face. This includes washing their face twice a day – morning and night. Adding a nourishing lip balm will protect your kid's lips from excessive dryness. Your child's skin will feel healthy and well taken care of. This will certainly help them feel more confident and secure in themselves every day while navigating these uncertain times.